I Come To You In Pieces

I'm Jasper and I blog about Criminal Minds, social justice and other crap. I wear queer-tinted glasses and react to most things with gifs.

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"weird shit happens here" - Sophie

i’m against abortion because: i know someone who died from a “legal” abortion

i’m against heart transplants because i know someone who died during a “legal” heart transplant 


Around 1 in 8 pregnancy-related deaths is associated with unsafe abortion. [source]



By saying that you only support abortion in cases of rape, you are just proving that the “pro-life” movement isn’t about caring about life, it’s about punishing people for having sex outside of the terms you deem appropriate. 

(Source: what-should-we-name-it)


face-down-asgard-up:

stfuprolife:

unknowablewoman:

Dennis the clinic escort showing off his one and only tattoo—“Choice.”
Tell me he is not the most badass grandpa you’ve ever seen.

Oh, he is definitely the most bad ass grandpa I’ve ever seen.

Fuck yeah grandpa

face-down-asgard-up:

stfuprolife:

unknowablewoman:

Dennis the clinic escort showing off his one and only tattoo—“Choice.”

Tell me he is not the most badass grandpa you’ve ever seen.

Oh, he is definitely the most bad ass grandpa I’ve ever seen.

Fuck yeah grandpa

(Source: saturniinae)


damegreywulf:

A senior Vatican cleric has defended the excommunication of the mother and doctors of a nine-year-old girl who had an abortion in Brazil after allegedly being raped by her stepfather.

[…]

The regional archbishop, Jose Cardoso Sobrinho, pronounced excommunication for the mother for authorising the operation and doctors who carried it out for fear that the slim girl would not survive carrying the foetuses to term. [Not that you need a fucking excuse for giving a nine year old girl, a FUCKING NINE YEAR OLD GIRL WHO WAS RAPED, an abortion, because PREGNANCY WILL ALWAYS BE VERY FUCKING UNHEALTHY FOR A CHILD, that’s not even including the fucking psychological issues of being raped and having to give birth to rape babies WHEN YOU ARE STILL A BABY YOURSELF]

[…]

He also said the accused stepfather would not be expelled from the church. Although the man allegedly committed “a heinous crime … the abortion - the elimination of an innocent life - was more serious”. [Saving a girl’s life and health is apparently worse than being a rapist, but then forgiveness of rapists is actually extremely common amongst Christianity, with the Vatican being the prime example itself.]

[…]

The girl, who was not identified because she is a minor, was last week found to be four months pregnant after being taken to hospital suffering stomach pains.

Officials said she told them she had suffered sexual abuse by her stepfather since the age of six.

Police said the 23-year-old stepfather also allegedly sexually abused the girl’s physically handicapped 14-year-old sister.

In case you ever forget it: All anti-choicers are scum to me, without question.


wheretheweedstakeroot:

A month ago, the story The Right Not to Know appeared in the Texas Observer: one woman’s experience with a second-trimester abortion after discovering her desperately-wanted baby had a genetic defect that meant abortion was by far the more humane choice. This was just after Texas’s new sonogram law went into effect, meaning that she had to endure not only a 24-hour wait, not only have a third (and medically-unnecessary) sonogram, but was also forced to listen to the abortion doctor describe the sonogram images and read off a boilerplate (bullshit) state-mandated script about the risks of abortion.

My heart was breaking as I read the article — I challenge anyone to read it and not be furious — but one paragraph in particular really stood out to me. Emphasis is mine:

“I’m so sorry that I have to do this,” the doctor told us, “but if I don’t, I can lose my license.” Before he could even start to describe our baby, I began to sob until I could barely breathe. Somewhere, a nurse cranked up the volume on a radio, allowing the inane pronouncements of a DJ to dull the doctor’s voice. Still, despite the noise, I heard him. His unwelcome words echoed off sterile walls while I, trapped on a bed, my feet in stirrups, twisted away from his voice.

Hang on, I thought. I’d just been to the dentist; the dentist’s office specifically invites you to bring your iPod or other handheld music device to help drown out the sound of the drill, and if you don’t have one, they have one in the office (loaded with Metallica and Guns and Roses and other loud stompy music) that they can lend you. Surely if it works for dentistry, it would work for this as well. This is a problem technology can solve!

The president/CEO of Planned Parenthood of West Texas got back to me this week and said she’d love to take me up on it. So I’m fundraising! She has requested four units (one for Abilene, one for San Angelo, and two for Midland) and it’s possible more clinics might get back to me requesting the same, since I asked the woman who replied to my initial broadcast email to forward it around in a more directed fashion.

The goal right now: $480 to cover four 8GB iPod Nano units and $560 to cover seven pairs (to make sure there’s one spare in each location, since headphones are less durable) of Audio Technica ATH-ANC1 QuietPoint Active Noise-Cancelling On-Ear Headphones. So, total fundraising goal for this round, which may increase if more clinics get back to me: $1060.

signal boost. please give if you can guys

(Source: calanthe)


I know I’ve told this story before, but my abusive ex refused to let me take birth control. I was on the pill until he found them in my purse.

I went to the Student Health Center—they were completely unhelpful, choosing to lecture me about the importance of safe sex (recommending condoms) instead of actually listening to my problem.

Then I went to Planned Parenthood. The Nurse Practitioner took one look at my fading bruises and stopped the exam. She called in the doctor. The doctor came in and simply asked me: “Are you ready to leave him?” When I denied that I was being abused, she didn’t argue with me. She just asked me what I needed. I said I need a birth control method that my boyfriend couldn’t detect. She recommended a few options and we decided on Depo.

When I told her that my boyfriend read my emails and listened to my phone messages and was known to follow me, she suggested to do the Depo injections at off hours when the clinic was normally closed. She made a note in my chart and instructed the front desk never to leave messages for me—instead, she programmed her personal cell phone number into my phone under the name “Nora”. She told me she would call me to schedule my appointments; she wouldn’t leave a message, but I should call her back when I was able to.

And that was it. No judgment. No lecture. She walked me to the door and told me to call her day or night if I needed anything. That she lived 5 blocks from campus and would come get me. That I wasn’t alone. That she just wanted me to be safe.

I never called her to come to my rescue. But I have no doubt that she would have come if I had called. She kept me on Depo for a year, giving me those monthly injections in secret, helping me prevent a desperately unwanted pregnancy.

I cannot thank Planned Parenthood enough for the work they do.



normalocity:

generalashreedus:

Alright then dear, beacause you obviously aren’t understanding me, let me lay this out for you: 
1) “Practice what you preach” It means if you don’t want others spewing their values on you, stop spewing yours onto them. I’m pro life. You’re pro choice. But here’s the difference: I’m sharing my opinion with people. You’re trying to say that what you believe is fact, when literally, it’s just another opinion. There’s no right or wrong in a topic like this because there’s so many variables to be considered. 
2) I’m not telling anyone what to do. Honestly I’m not at all sure what you read, but I think your narrow liberal mind twisted it into something different. Because I never said, “don’t have an abortion” Yes I’m pro life, but I also think that in the end it is up to the mother, I just hope they choose to let their baby live. If you can find fault in me for that, then go right on ahead. 
3) I’m not knocking people who decide to have abortions. It’s their decision and though I don’t agree with it, It’s not my business. Let me clear this up for you: I don’t like random abortions because women decide to go throw themselves at whatever moves and then go have abortions because they can’t “be saddled with a mistake.” <(words straight from your president’s mouth) That, in my opinion, is wrong and disgusting. If there’s some medical issue then yeah, sometimes, it’s necessary when it’s mother vs child. Some rape cases, women don’t want to or can’t emotionally have the baby, fine I get that. But don’t tell me I’m “knocking” people when I’m not the one who’s been throwing insults and cuss words left and right. 
4) When I said, the pro life  POV doesn’t get shared enough, I was referring to tumblr. I always see pro choice activism, but never see pro life values. So I’m sharing mine. Sue me. 
5)  I watch Fox News. And it’s a hell of a lot more accurate than MSNBC or NBC. What’s your reliable source on msnbc? Rachel Maddow? Chris Matthews? Dear God, if those people are who you’re getting your “accurate information” from I suggest you try again. And see? I don’t only watch Fox News, I also watch the other channels to compare and be able to make an informed decision when it counts. 
6) Medically speaking, you believe the baby is a “parasite” right? A bunch of cells leeching off the mother? Well tell me something.. You call the pregnant woman a mother but you won’t recognize the child as a baby.. Explain that part to me. Because my mother didn’t raise a fetus, she raised a baby. A child. Mother/child. Not mother/fetus. So explain how you can call the woman a mother if she isn’t expecting a child. 
7) Fact: Most women choose to keep their babies after an ultrasound. That’s not just some random show for a commercial. They aren’t “guilted” into anything, they choose to have an ultrasound, they choose to keep the baby. Because they hear the heartbeat, because yes, the second a baby is conceived, it has a heartbeat even that tiny little “mass of cells” you think isn’t important. That is a fact. You can google it. 
8) A baby is never a mistake. And no, a baby is not a “punishment.” if you choose to see it that way, fine. But take a second and think about how you would feel, if your parents back when they found out they were having you, thought you were a “mistake.” Whether they decided to keep you or not. Doesn’t feel too good does it? 
9) As to your initial “fuck you very much” tag, I have values that differ from yours. My beliefs aren’t your beliefs. Never once did I insult you, never once did I mock you for believing in what you do. So I’m not hurt by your petty little jabs. Because it’s what most people depend on when they can’t hold a civilized discussion with someone. 
10) Thank you, for giving me the chance to show people that I can have an actual discussion with somebody without resorting to cheap shots and insults and some others don’t have said ability. Thanks for giving me the chance to share my opinion and beliefs with people in a civilized fashion, even after being “laughed at” and dismissed. 
~Ps: If a woman doesn’t want to or is financially/emotionally/mentally unable to keep their child, there’s a simple solution: adoption. A lot of women and couples out there would love to have children but physically can’t. So instead of throwing away an innocent life that’s just “a bunch of cells” to you, think about a woman who would love to have that “bunch of cells” and raise it and be a mother but can’t. 

Actually, “dear” I’m understanding you pretty well. And thanks for reblogging this/tagging it so I could see your response! Oh wait.

1. I really can’t make what I already said about this any clearer. 

2. I’m just going to go ahead and ignore that you think liberals are the ones with narrow minds (although I did laugh hysterically), and skip right to you directly contradicting yourself. Also, again, we’re talking about a fetus, not a baby.

3. That is a myth. No woman uses abortion for birth control, or has a “random abortion”. What you’re doing right now is called slut-shaming, and I believe I hear the hoof-beats of high horses again. 

He’s your president too, even if you don’t like him.

Don’t act like I’m the one cussing and insulting, when you’re the one who called me a dickshit. Yeah, I saw that. 

It’s not up to you to decide what’s a “good” reason to have an abortion.

4. If you don’t see the pro-life pov on tumblr, it’s because you’ve never paid attention. Go into the pro-life tag. Hell, go into the pro-choice tag. Or any social justice tag or blog.

5. Informed!decision fail then. Thanks for the lol at Fox News being most accurate tho. And what was that about not throwing insults around? Hm.

6. Wow. You’re right, your mother didn’t raise a fetus. She raised a baby. Because you had been born. And anyway, the woman doesn’t necessarily have to be called a mother. Uterus-bearer, woman, pregnant female. The word mother doesn’t have to come into play at all. But nice try.

7. I did google it. And you know what? I found actual women’s sites that actually support women (as opposed to the conservative propaganda sites I assume you looked at) that said that ultrasounds rarely affect a woman’s decision to have an abortion. So nice try! Way to try and use science (wrongly). 

8. I already know I was a mistake. I wasn’t planned, and I wouldn’t have been at all surprised if my mother wanted to abort me. And knowing her, it might not have been such a bad choice. But she didn’t. And that doesn’t magically make me pro-life. My mother decided she wanted me, but that doesn’t mean every women wants to have a child. And it shouldn’t. Nice guilt-tripping! You’ll be a republican candidate yet!

9. Again, you did insult me, you just thought I wouldn’t see it. I don’t have to be nice to you, it’s not my job. And I’m not being petty, if I was, I’d just tell you what a shitty rp’er you are and have done with it. If pro-life activists think picketing and attacking women is ‘civilized’ the I’m just acting accordingly. Nice try trying to make me look like the bad guy!

10. You’re very welcome! I’m glad you took this opportunity to try and make yourself seem like a martyr to your followers! Happy to help! Again, I don’t have to be nice to anyone when discussing my own rights, that are constantly under attack.

PS. There’s are thousands of children waiting to be adopted, that never will be. Why should a woman be forced to carry a child to term, just to watch it go away to be unloved and unwanted anyway? Especially since people are reluctant to trans-racially adopt. And some of those couples are gay, and you’re right they’d love to adopt, but can’t. Gee, I wonder who decided that. Let me check Fox News.

Google it.